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My son love this place! Mrs. Carol does such a great job teaching the kids confidence, self control and integrity.

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My daughter is 6 years old and she LOVES attending this program. Mrs. Carol and her team are AWESOME. Not only are the kids learning the art but lessons that help to build character. Also, the facility is NICE; well-kept and spacious.

Christy Schnellhardt reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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Amazing! Best place for increasing a child’s self confidence, perseverance, and self control! Plus they have a blast!

Dana Newman

This is not only a great place to learn Taekwondo but a place the whole family feels welcome! I would highly recommend Fort Bend Taekwondo.

Mallory Thornton reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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My daughter's experience with Taekwondo has been so much deeper than learning Taekwondo itself. Ms. Chapman's program has provided lessons in endurance, responsibility, courage and instructing others. I cannot say enough about the growth I have seen in my daughter in all of these areas. I highly recommend Taekwondo but more specifically recommend the Fort Bend Taekwondo program. Mallory Thornton

Adam Richardson reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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We have two boys at Ft Bend Taekwondo with Coach Carol currently and we all love it there. This is a very family oriented environment from the top down for both the children and the parents. Not only does Coach Carol teach Taekwondo but she teaches the students life lessons and helps them follow and live by the Taekwondo Tenets. our boys have been students for around three years now. It is amazing to see how much they have grown as young men because of Coach Carol and her coaching staff. Ft Bend Taekwondo is also not just about Taekwondo. Coach Carol is always looking for different events to put on or attend as a school for the students AND parents to grow in all ways in their lives. We love this school, Coach Carol and all her supporting staff and always recommend Ft Bend Taekwondo to anyone and everyone. Adam Richardson

Brianna Bacher reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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My mom and dad wanted me to join Taekwondo, but I was reluctant too. I am sure glad that I listened to my parents and joined Fort Bend Taekwondo. From the moment I walked into Fort Bend Taekwondo, Mrs. Chapman and her staff made me feel comfortable and safe. They welcomed me in and I found myself wanting to learn all the kicks, forms and excercises they Had to teach me. Initially, I was scared and not very confident in myself or my abilities. I didn't believe I had what it takes to do Taekwondo. Mrs. Chapman quickly proved me wrong. With each new form she taught me and new kick I learned, I felt more confident in myself. Not only did I feel myself getting physically stronger, I felt my mind getting stronger too. My mind was becoming more clear and I could focus better. At each class Mrs. Chapman and her staff make learning fun. They are always there to offer help and encouragement. I find myself always wanting to do my best. Fort Bend Taekwondo is a great place to learn new things, build strength, increase confidence and build great friendships. I am so happy to be part of the Fort Bend Taekwondo family. Sincerely, Brianna Bacher

Oyuki Morales reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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It's been close to a year that we've been with Mrs. Carol at Fort Bend Taekwondo.Mrs Carol is a wonderful instructor, that makes the classes fun but also teaches the kids discipline. I recommend coming here, it's a wonderful after school activity for our children to invest their time and it teaches self control, and manners while having FUN!

Heather Knitter reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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I absolutely love Fort Bend Taekwondo. The whole crew is amazing. The owner, Carol, is a rock star. Classes are exciting and fun. My son looks forward to class each time. He has gained self-confidence and it is so wonderful to see him feel proud of his accomplishments. This has really helped us, and I cannot say enough wonderful things about Carol and her crew. She takes the time to know each student and make them feel welcome. Our family <3's Fort Bend TaeKwonDo!!!!

Cyndi Williams reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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This is a great program, we have seen positive changes in our kids. Mrs. Chapman is amazing, her and all her staff and care so much about every student. We LOVE this program. A++

Allan Webber reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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Our youngest boy, Patrick, has been going there for 6 months now where he is now a orange belt. He is not sporty and I have been pleased how he has progressed. Initially he was pretty un-cordinated and I have watched him grow in his form and confidence. I was concerned that he would loose interest but the good news is he is still enthusiastic about going. He is making some new friends there.

It is not all work either where there is a fun side to the practices. Most practices end with a game of dodgeball with the ball being thrown by the instructors. Patrick was delighted with getting to be the last one on his birthday and speaking of birthdays, the kids get to break a board on their birthday. (Patrick has his proudly on display in his bedroom).

In addition, Carol runs the occasional Saturday play evening to give the parents a day off. Patrick has attended 2 - one a Nerf party, the other a Pokemon night- and he loved then both.

I am looking forward to the new building which is a bit further away just off the feeder (I live very near today) but it will offer improved parking.

Anna Frederick Henderson reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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Mrs. Chapman made our whole group feel comfortable as we tried out TaeKwonDo for the first time. I was impressed stepping foot in the door, a well-equipped, clean, organized studio that was ready and waiting for us! A huge thanks to Carol Chapman and Nora!

Mathew Abraham reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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We love this place. We have a 5 year old who is pretty timid in large group settings. We went to 4 martial arts places in the Katy area. The minute we walked into FBT we knew we'd love it. Everyone was so informative and friendly and were so great with my son and put him right at ease from the minute he walked in. Now he has been a member for about 6 months. He doesn't complain about going, is motivated to practice at home and is totally motivated to win the weekly stripes on his belt. The two things I love the most about the lessons are the importance of discipline and the lessons. I feel like these days our kids have so many distractions and I love that in these lessons the teachers force the kids to focus on what they are doing and the instructions they are giving out. The other thing I really like is that in every class about 5-8 minutes is spent talking about important life skills, memory skills, determination, confidence and so on. Its more than just physical activity, its really a way of life.

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Empowering vs. Enabling – The Fine Line of Parenting

We live in a competitive world and most parents jump at the chance to give their child every advantage imaginable. The world can also be unkind and, as parents, we feel a need to protect our children from everything possible. And yes, parents are supposed to help and protect their children.  But  – when does supporting children turn into overhelping? The difference between the two is a very fine line and is often very difficult to decipher.

Responsible parenting means proving food, clothing, and shelter, giving attention and love, and protecting our children from danger. It does not mean doing everything for them and protecting them from anything that may bring them grief. This type of parenting is excessive and can develop due to a parent’s fear, anxiety, or peer pressure from other parents. It can also be a way that parents overcompensate for the difficult childhood they experienced. Whatever the case, although the hyper-involvement comes from a place of love, it can actually hinder a child’s ability to achieve autonomy.

In child development terms, autonomy develops when children can function independently and have choices. Without this, they may experience what psychologist Erik Erikson called “shame and doubt.” This leads to decreased confidence and increased anxiety. And when parents make all the decisions and fix all the problems for their children, those children have underdeveloped coping and life skills. The goal should not be to raise dependent children but, instead, to raise resilient and confident ones.

In order for this to happen, parents must empower their children by teaching self-reliance. The goal is to raise children who are independent and stable on their own. For this to happen children must be allowed to make mistakes and learn to be resourceful in finding solutions to problems that present themselves. Parents can do this by supporting their children without completely removing themselves from the process. It is important for parents to be there for their children as a sounding board. This will help them develop healthy coping strategies and feel more confident in their decision making.

One way to do this is by letting children make mistakes in a safe environment. In our classes, we utilize their mistakes as learning opportunities. For example, if a child runs when they’re supposed to walk, we make them re-do the action in order to allow them to correct the mistake. We also actually test students in order to earn a new belt rank and support and guide them, if they don’t pass their testing, to hopefully pass the next time. Overcoming failure with loving support from instructors and parents is an amazing way for a child to develop self-confidence and reliance on intrinsic motivation –  behavior that is driven by internal rewards instead of external ones.

The line between empowering and enabling is a very fine one. But as career and life coach Maura Koutoujian put it, “When a child is enabled, they miss out in the opportunity to cultivate intrinsic motivation – a critical component in developing accountability and self-confidence.”

Although it’s hard for parents (and teachers, coaches, and instructors) to see their children (and students) struggle, hurt and disappointment are a part of life and children need to develop ways to overcome those things on their own. Supportive parenting should always move children closer to independence and stability which will lead to resilient adults in the future.