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Griselda Vela-Rodas reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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My son love this place! Mrs. Carol does such a great job teaching the kids confidence, self control and integrity.

Kimberly Holland reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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My daughter is 6 years old and she LOVES attending this program. Mrs. Carol and her team are AWESOME. Not only are the kids learning the art but lessons that help to build character. Also, the facility is NICE; well-kept and spacious.

Christy Schnellhardt reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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Amazing! Best place for increasing a child’s self confidence, perseverance, and self control! Plus they have a blast!

Dana Newman

This is not only a great place to learn Taekwondo but a place the whole family feels welcome! I would highly recommend Fort Bend Taekwondo.

Mallory Thornton reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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My daughter's experience with Taekwondo has been so much deeper than learning Taekwondo itself. Ms. Chapman's program has provided lessons in endurance, responsibility, courage and instructing others. I cannot say enough about the growth I have seen in my daughter in all of these areas. I highly recommend Taekwondo but more specifically recommend the Fort Bend Taekwondo program. Mallory Thornton

Adam Richardson reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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We have two boys at Ft Bend Taekwondo with Coach Carol currently and we all love it there. This is a very family oriented environment from the top down for both the children and the parents. Not only does Coach Carol teach Taekwondo but she teaches the students life lessons and helps them follow and live by the Taekwondo Tenets. our boys have been students for around three years now. It is amazing to see how much they have grown as young men because of Coach Carol and her coaching staff. Ft Bend Taekwondo is also not just about Taekwondo. Coach Carol is always looking for different events to put on or attend as a school for the students AND parents to grow in all ways in their lives. We love this school, Coach Carol and all her supporting staff and always recommend Ft Bend Taekwondo to anyone and everyone. Adam Richardson

Brianna Bacher reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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My mom and dad wanted me to join Taekwondo, but I was reluctant too. I am sure glad that I listened to my parents and joined Fort Bend Taekwondo. From the moment I walked into Fort Bend Taekwondo, Mrs. Chapman and her staff made me feel comfortable and safe. They welcomed me in and I found myself wanting to learn all the kicks, forms and excercises they Had to teach me. Initially, I was scared and not very confident in myself or my abilities. I didn't believe I had what it takes to do Taekwondo. Mrs. Chapman quickly proved me wrong. With each new form she taught me and new kick I learned, I felt more confident in myself. Not only did I feel myself getting physically stronger, I felt my mind getting stronger too. My mind was becoming more clear and I could focus better. At each class Mrs. Chapman and her staff make learning fun. They are always there to offer help and encouragement. I find myself always wanting to do my best. Fort Bend Taekwondo is a great place to learn new things, build strength, increase confidence and build great friendships. I am so happy to be part of the Fort Bend Taekwondo family. Sincerely, Brianna Bacher

Oyuki Morales reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
5
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It's been close to a year that we've been with Mrs. Carol at Fort Bend Taekwondo.Mrs Carol is a wonderful instructor, that makes the classes fun but also teaches the kids discipline. I recommend coming here, it's a wonderful after school activity for our children to invest their time and it teaches self control, and manners while having FUN!

Heather Knitter reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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I absolutely love Fort Bend Taekwondo. The whole crew is amazing. The owner, Carol, is a rock star. Classes are exciting and fun. My son looks forward to class each time. He has gained self-confidence and it is so wonderful to see him feel proud of his accomplishments. This has really helped us, and I cannot say enough wonderful things about Carol and her crew. She takes the time to know each student and make them feel welcome. Our family <3's Fort Bend TaeKwonDo!!!!

Cyndi Williams reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
5
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This is a great program, we have seen positive changes in our kids. Mrs. Chapman is amazing, her and all her staff and care so much about every student. We LOVE this program. A++

Allan Webber reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
5
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Our youngest boy, Patrick, has been going there for 6 months now where he is now a orange belt. He is not sporty and I have been pleased how he has progressed. Initially he was pretty un-cordinated and I have watched him grow in his form and confidence. I was concerned that he would loose interest but the good news is he is still enthusiastic about going. He is making some new friends there.

It is not all work either where there is a fun side to the practices. Most practices end with a game of dodgeball with the ball being thrown by the instructors. Patrick was delighted with getting to be the last one on his birthday and speaking of birthdays, the kids get to break a board on their birthday. (Patrick has his proudly on display in his bedroom).

In addition, Carol runs the occasional Saturday play evening to give the parents a day off. Patrick has attended 2 - one a Nerf party, the other a Pokemon night- and he loved then both.

I am looking forward to the new building which is a bit further away just off the feeder (I live very near today) but it will offer improved parking.

Anna Frederick Henderson reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
5
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Mrs. Chapman made our whole group feel comfortable as we tried out TaeKwonDo for the first time. I was impressed stepping foot in the door, a well-equipped, clean, organized studio that was ready and waiting for us! A huge thanks to Carol Chapman and Nora!

Mathew Abraham reviewed Fort Bend Taekwondo
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We love this place. We have a 5 year old who is pretty timid in large group settings. We went to 4 martial arts places in the Katy area. The minute we walked into FBT we knew we'd love it. Everyone was so informative and friendly and were so great with my son and put him right at ease from the minute he walked in. Now he has been a member for about 6 months. He doesn't complain about going, is motivated to practice at home and is totally motivated to win the weekly stripes on his belt. The two things I love the most about the lessons are the importance of discipline and the lessons. I feel like these days our kids have so many distractions and I love that in these lessons the teachers force the kids to focus on what they are doing and the instructions they are giving out. The other thing I really like is that in every class about 5-8 minutes is spent talking about important life skills, memory skills, determination, confidence and so on. Its more than just physical activity, its really a way of life.

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What to do when your teen wants to quit

When my daughter started middle school, she wanted to play an instrument and be a part of her middle-school orchestra. We went to the “try the instrument” event, and after trying out seemingly every single instrument there, she settled on the cello. At first, she was super excited to practice and learn new songs. As the school year wore on, though, that excitement fizzled out. By the end of the year, it was very apparent that she no longer enjoyed playing the cello, or even being in orchestra.

At that time, I had a choice to make. I could try to force her to continue doing something I thought was a great activity for her in so many ways, but one that she didn’t care for at all. Or, I could let her make her own decision whether to continue or move onto something else. I chose the latter.

More and more, parents of teenagers are coming to me, saying their teen wants to quit taekwondo.  And while I always hate it when a student decides to stop martial arts, at some point, kids want to and need to make decisions about some of their activities. It’s our jobs, as parents and coaches, to allow them to do so, with our support and guidance.

Adolescence (ages  9 – 18) starts that trying stage in parenting where your child wants to become more independent, while parents often still want to control every aspect of their lives.

According to psychologist Carl Pickhardt, Ph.D., “certain changes, tensions, and conflicts unfold in a predictable progression as the young person separates from childhood and enters young adulthood…empowered by trial-and-error life experience.”

Let’s rephrase that – in order for a child to move into adulthood, they need to have trial and error life experience. How do they get that experience?

By you, as a parent, allowing them to make meaningful decisions.

And as a parent, you need to allow your child to make their own choices on non-life-threatening events and activities, even when we disagree with what their choices may be.

Cort Curtis, Ph.D. and licensed psychologist, says it best: You need to “…give over responsibility for the decisions that affect your child’s life but don’t really affect yours.”

This especially pertains to their extracurricular activities.

Now, I realize that we all have hopes and dreams for our children. My dad wanted me to be a concert pianist. And while I had some talent for it, I most certainly did not have the passion for it. (I totally hated it!) He was wise enough to realize that, and I made the decision to stop piano lessons and move on to other activities that interested me.  I made a meaningful decision on my own. This made me happy, and him as well – because we didn’t have to have an all-out war over me continuing to practice and take lessons. And I was able to safely test the waters of decision making on an activity of which either one of my choices would not have a debilitating outcome for him, or me.

As your child enters adolescence, allow them to make decisions on one or two things. Deciding whether to stay with an extra-curricular activity they’ve done for years is a great place to start. Help them weigh the pros and cons of continuing or quitting. And then honor their decision, even if it goes against your preferences.

As they grow and their decisions can have a bigger impact on their lives, set up a decision/consequence contract with them. Work together to create a contract that sets out clear expectations and repercussions, and then BOTH of you sign it. Getting their driver’s license and coming to an agreement on where, when, and whom they can drive is a great area of responsibility for which to make a contract.

Giving over responsibility to your teen can be so, so hard – especially when they’ve always allowed us to make all their decisions when they were younger, and now they’re chafing against just about all of them. However, we must realize that this is the perfect time for them to be allowed to make some decisions and learn what happens – both good and bad – in a supported, loving environment at home so that when they’re out and on their own, they can make thoughtful decisions independently.